Ever known a divorcee who couldn’t move on? You hear his ranting about how ridiculous his ex and former in-laws are and how their latest antics are just another example of blah, blah, blah. Given the raw feelings surrounding divorce, such rants are understandable–for a while.
But after a while, most people realize themselves (or are instructed by their friends) that ranting is no longer helpful. It’s time to move on. Moving on means not paying such close attention to the dysfunction that made one crazy in the first place, and certainly not running on about it.
This week our ECO ex is having their family reunion in Detroit. I’ve seen lots of venting and snarking online about their doings. And I have to confess the anger resonated with me. Some lingering wounds in my own heart make it all too easy to join in the scorn.
But it’s time to move on. This is an essential part of welcoming God’s forgiveness to move from being a commitment in the head to a freedom in the heart. It’s also essential for moving fully into His next season for us.
We just celebrated the one-year anniversary of our congregation’s marriage to ECO. I can truly say, it is wonderful–far beyond what I had ever hoped. And that, in itself, makes it easier to move on. Even so, it takes some discipline to drop the old combative habits.
Let’s help each other. It will make us all the more ready to welcome others in the healthiest ways to our happy new union. And it will make our prayers more genuine for our remaining partners gathered with the crew in Detroit.